11 Traits You will get in a Cancerian - Zodiac Sign

At first you deny it then you entertain the idea of it and finally you will become addicted to it. I was one of those people who did not believe in Zodiac sign and astrology. Being God’s favorite child, I was inspired by someone to check the same and I thought there was no harm in reading this stuff. Now it is the time when I can’t spend my day without reading my horoscope along with that person horoscope (just to check if everything is going to be okay between us that day). This quarantine period bring the worst out from me as I decided to write again and this time I decided to write my experience with some of the signs and I will start from myself (Obviously this is my blog) and trust me Badal has forced me to write this post as he believes that my posts are not balanced and it has hidden messages for a single person.

If you have the opportunity to have a Cancerian in your life then I think you are sorted for life if you get to know them well (I know its difficult). Cancer Zodiac may be known as over thinker, sensitive and family oriented sign but the only reason why Cancer make such awesome people because they are caring and emotionally challenged. Here are the 11 reasons to identify a Cancerian around you:

1. They can read your Mind, not literally

There are chances if something is bothering you, your Cancer knows about it before you can bring it up. As they say, Cancers are lead by their instincts and they take the right decision at an opportune time (I know few of you might not agree with my current situation). If I have to explain further, they are the people who understand people by patterns and if something is odd then they would be the first to know.

2. Good Listener – you can say whatever you have to say

Cancers are very sensitive and compassionate listener. When you are talking to them they will try to get into your shoes and see the problem from your point of view. If you are having a bad day at office, in relationship or having any personal problem which need to vent then you can trust a Cancer. Cancers are best of friends (Even they have less friends) and they usually give off an aura that makes you feel more comfortable.

3. They can fix things

Cancerians are known to fix issues and have a knack of coming up with prompt solution and are usually problem solver. As they say Cancerians are neither too technical nor too emotional. They know (if they know or want to know) when to listen to their heart and when to listen to their brain. It is to believe that a Cancerian will not only give the most practical solution to your problem, but will also solve most of it for you.

4. A great sense of humor

This one is my favorite trait and most of the time people took me wrong for my weird (They call it not me) sense of humor. Cancers have the ability to laugh at themselves when they are wrong and they don't mind being the butt of a good, smart joke for the sake of fun, and they're willing to look foolish to get a laugh. If you like clever, thoughtful humor, hang out with a Cancerian. You can sense sarcasm most of the time. Let me close this point by saying,” I am not Sarcastic, My humor has an attitude”.

5. They speak their Mind – Can be Manipulative 

Cancers speak of their mind and won’t be afraid to give their opinion on anything or everything. They will hold up if they give priority to a person/ relation than the opinion which is being asked. Else they’re the kinds of people that will tell you exactly what is on their mind without any kind of filter… even if it’s not pretty. Whether or not you want to hear it, if you NEED to hear it, a Cancerian will say it. Eventually everything would make sense to you too.

6. Cancers are very strong and independent

Cancers might have a reputation of being insensitive or emotionless but they are very sensitive and you should not make that mistake for thinking that they are weak. My dad has told me once that Your Zodiac sign like to surprise people via their efforts and they might go an extra mile to solve something for anyone. In relationships, Cancers are more willing to work through problems instead of giving up and when they give up there is no going back mentally.

7. Cancerian is a supportive and encouraging companion

If I have to compare Cancerian to any mythological Character I will relate it to “Karna” because of their support and companionship. Cancers will support you unconditionally despite of whether you are right or wrong. They would always know what to say to make someone feel better and are great at giving advice that is actually helpful. Cancers hold all their intimate relationships close to heart, which makes them very dependable regardless of what situation they encounter. 

8. Keep you from making bad decisions

Cancers are antidote to the situations where you have “I really shouldn’t have done that” moments. You can avoid that having a Cancerian around you. As far as they love to explore and listen to the ideas even then they are extremely rational and thoughtful when it comes to their decision. Cancers will game of anything but they will draw a line when a situation is potential harmful. When it comes to express they might hold back as they do not want to be a part of the other persons bad decision.

9. Ability to know if you’re being ‘fake’

As they say, if someone is honest with you they expect the same courtesy in return, this is true in case of Cancerian. If you are being fake or they identified you as fake then they will have no time for you. They will move away from your life and you would not be able to identify that transition. They can get inside your heart and mind in no time but not misuse your weaknesses.

10. Cancers are very caring

If astrology to be believed, Cancer is the sign that represents motherhood, hence they have a strong maternal instincts and empathetic by nature. They treat being a best friend like a full time job and they are willing to go above and beyond for the people they love. If you look up “Best Friend” in the dictionary, you would see a picture of a Cancer right next to the definition (This one is for Badal).

If you are close to a Cancer and feelings are mutual then you are family and the family-oriented crab will likely do just about anything for you. You can mess with Cancers, but never mess with their friends or family.

11. They might forgive, but never forget

Cancers are generally pretty easy going sign in their approach to life and they don’t complicate things and take life on a lighter note but don’t mistake that for thinking that they will just allow people to walk all over them. Cancer always tries to treat the people like they way then want to be treated but if somebody violates their trust and privacy or wrong them in some way that they simply can’t forgive. They will be sure to put you in your place in the way that only Cancer can… well they can hold a grudge for a long long time and they aren’t quick to forgive betrayal.

There were many other traits and qualities with the said Zodiac sign but only creative ones got the space in list. Trust me when I say this all Cancerians cannot be the same as their mind and deeds will impact their life and they tend to change. End of the day you born with a Sun Sign but you end up building yourself basis your deeds which is called “Karma”. All these qualities might not be available in all Cancerians and all cancerians can not behave the same.

Perfect Date Ideas - Lets decode it

So we always struggle in our life to find out the perfect plan to spend some quality time with our loved ones or love interest or your potential boyfriend. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or thinking about going back out into the world to find that perfect someone, you would need some time to understand your partner. Then we have a tough time in planning the perfect date and if the planning needs to be done by a Guy (Specially me) then it can turn out to be a disaster in no time.

You need to come up with a good date idea, make sure everything goes smoothly, and still you have something interesting to say while you’re together unless you are sucker in talking like me or you have a person who is too good in communication. This can often be difficult, they are essential.

Let me start with saying that I am no expert in planning dates and giving away ideas but I believe we must consider few points before planning anything for your girl. Otherwise pray to God that your partner should be someone who can plan this for you and you can have relax stress less life and be habitual with those taunts which you will listen throughout your life (If she thinks you might be the one).

Let’s take a look at a very simple formula that will ensure a perfect date every time.

The Meal

The food connection is very important and as I love food so I thought this would be the first point in this list. The meal is the time that the two of you sit down together and have an opportunity to talk to each other. It’s a great time to learn more about her and ask a lot of questions and listen carefully (Have patience and do not stop her in between).

What would you eat is really dependent on who the girl is and where you are in the relationship. You must figure it out basis her choices. Here are few pointers for picking up the restaurant:

      • Quiet is better

      • An Awesome View (it works)

      • Tables are better

      • Always pay the full tab (You are the one who is taking her out)

Find ways to engage with each other

The activity is the second fundamental component of a date. It can be almost anything as long as it involves the two of you being active together. The worst thing you can do is go through all this planning an then spend all your time on your phone or you get involve on small talks in which either one of you are interested in.Find ways to interact and engage with each other. For example, if you are heading out to a restaurant, try coming up with some unique conversation starters to ask each other. 

Second, any guy can take a girl out to dinner. Being able to combine a good meal with a fun conversation is an art. This is where you tell her you’re not like the other guys she’s been disappointed with. It shows her you are fun and will keep her interested.

Focus on Her means put away the phones

The best part about any date is that quality time. So, to maximize that time together, eliminate all distraction. Put the phone on silent or Do not disturb so you can get emergency calls. Some of the cases it is very difficult to get it executed when the girl is workaholic in that case practice patience.

As we are talking about distractions, so if you are in a restaurant, make sure you stay away from TV’s. Even just the announcers and people cheering in the background can take away from the moment. Even if only for a few minutes, that dedicated focus can be so powerful in helping you both connect with each other.

Find out Who She Really Is

Let’s admit that on the first very few interactions and conversations are almost fake. You are both on your best behavior as you maintain eye contact, sitting up straight and taking about non-controversial subjects. You judge each other royally. So basically when you start your conversation with her where you are both able to relax a little and see who the other person really is. This is because you are allowing the person to see through you so that person can decide if she can trust you or she is in interested in you.

These conversations will tell you a lot of the things you want to know about her:

      • Is she fun and can understand your Jokes?

      • Does she have trouble letting her hair down?

      • Do we enjoy being friends with you?

      • Do we able to trust each other and formalities are not there?

      • Are you guys comfortable in talking anything with each other

If you have been in the relationship for a while, you may already know the answers to some of these questions. Let’s not over think it…

Collect memories

Personally I am not good at collecting memories as I get too much involved with the person that forget to click pictures and mark it as a date to remember. When we go to the mountain and into the woods throw away your camera into the lake as I won’t need pictures to remember the moments we create. I believe, when we close our eyes those moments will come in front of you like a picture and those would be perfect. But these might not work for you guys so don’t forget to collect memories! Whether it’s a photo of you both, a little souvenir, or some other memento, having something to look back on can help remind you of those feelings!

Start creating those memories now! You’ll be glad to have them years down the road when you can look back on them and smile.

Few Tips which might come handy

Below are the tips which can be useful and they’re what will get you a second date or keep your long term girlfriend interested.

Music : Music sets the mood. Trust me and if you both have same taste in music then that experience would be beyond words. If you’re somewhere quiet, play some music that matches the mood you want for your date. Even if you are on a road trip music would the vital which will set the mood right.

Flowers : Someone has told me once that there is not a woman alive that doesn’t like flowers. Roses are romantic, but are a little bit played out. Try something different like orchid or lily. I might write some point of time the color code of the expression but for now avoid yellow and that color over signifies friendship.

Privacy : This is not a hard and fast rule as it varies from situation to situation. For example, you don’t want to go to a restaurant where you are the only couple and you don’t want to be in a bar full of people and not be able to hear each other.

Calmness : This is more a mindset than anything. Like most things in life, you can not plan a perfect date and expect everything will fall in place the way you want it to be. Always remember that moment with your loved one is important and rest of the things do not matter. So, be flexible and change things around if needed. The dates that don’t go perfectly are often the most memorable.

Put It Together

There are few more ideas which you can consider as a date for your special person:

1. Pack a picnic and take her for a light hike

2. Go for a road trip to a fun restaurant

3. Go to the zoo and eat at a local burger joint

4. Cook her dinner and Netflix or movie night (This is my favorite idea as I love to cook food for the person I love and care)

Let me close this post by saying that planning is good to give your loved ones the perfect experience. Trust me when you know that your partner is right and feelings are mutual then everything around you will fall into places the way you want them to be. 

If you have any other ideas than these please share with us. It will help in improving my knowledge too!

Quarantined Gyan - Work From Home

In the midst of the new corona virus pandemic, most of the companies have implemented work from home for their employees. This article is dedicated to those people who are affecting my life as they are working tirelessly from Home. Needless to say working from office was not this much stressed. I was never a fan of Work From Home. I tried to explain them over a call as social distancing needs to be followed that there are few ways which you should consider when you are working from home. I think I failed miserably and I believe I should try once again via this post so few other people including me can be saved.

Before I start with all the Gyan, let me tell you that I consider myself as workaholic person but I always keep my thoughts and work organized and I believe unless you are calm inside you cannot give your 100% to the job and you always feel stressed.

It might be for an extended period of time rather than a day here and there. Your whole company is involved. And you can’t necessarily socialize in person outside of work. These tips will help you make sure that you’re managing your work well and you are maintaining your mental well-being:

1. Get Dressed

It’s a crucial step which you should take and trust me it’s a simple tip. I know its tempting to stay in pajamas and shorts all day but you must give away the temptation and test your productivity against other days.

I am not suggesting to dress formally as you might for office, but the simple act of changing clothes servers as a signal that its time to wake up and get the things done. I know that some of you might find this crazy and few of you might call me and tell that how stupid this idea is. Let me misquote SRK’s one dialogue “Don’t underestimate the power of putting on clothes suitable for work. It makes you feel confident and helps draw the line between being at work and being at home,”

Lastly you will keep a check on your wardrobe if you need to buy new clothes post “Lockdown” as you might be eating like there is no tomorrow.

2. Designate a Workspace

One of the biggest challenges anyone can face when it comes to work remotely is keeping your work and home lives different. If you never fully disconnect from work, your work quality will suffer and your home life can take a hit as well. If you’re used to going into an office each day, the division between work and home is physical, and you want to try to recreate that as much as possible with a designated workspace at home.

Try to make your workspace comfortable with a chair you can sit in for eight hours a day. Entering your workspace will help you turn “on” at the beginning of the day and get down to work. On the flipside, leaving your workspace will also help you turn “off” at the end of the day and fully disengage.

The key here is to do whatever you need to do to “leave” your workspace. Some people must understand that.

3. Keep Clearly Defined Working Hours

As you have already designated the work space for your job, you should be clear about when you are working and when you are not. You will get your best work done and be most ready for transition back to the office if you stick to regular office hours. If you are coordinating with multiple teams then be on the same schedule as your teammates. The biggest difference between working from home and working in the office is that you are in charge of your surroundings and have to treat yourself like an employee.

My advice is if you feel yourself extending your work hours because you aren’t doing anything in the evening...tell yourself it’s time to put work away, recharge, and start tomorrow with a fresh mind. The work will be there in the morning.

Let me quote myself “Work can not be finished in one day and you are not the magician”

4. Build Transitions Into Work

Your morning commute not only gets you from one place to another but also gives your brain time to prepare for work. I know someone who loves to drive and spend 3 hours everyday in travelling. She usually do everything in those 3 hours which is scarier even in writing. May be you usually read or listen to music on your commute and you can do the same at home or you can spend sometime with your loved ones or spend that time on a hobby or you can have JAR where you can write 3 Good things happened in your Life last day (This might work as a reminder).

Give yourself something that will signal the end of work and serve as a buffer. When I worked from home, I made it a habit to go out with my cousin to buy vegetables but in “Lockdown” days you can have the call with your friends or people who care about every day. So in case you fail to make a call on someday they will call and remind that your working hours are over.

5. Don’t Get Too Sucked by Anything Else

Distraction is one of the biggest challenges for the people who are working from home. You probably already take a few breaks throughout the day at the office, and that’s fine to do at home, too. Using that time to throw in a load of laundry is OK, but not try to take this window to check new work assignments. Some people can call me when they are on break as I am unemployed currently and need support (making puppy face while writing).

If you’re working remotely because of the new corona virus, checking in on COVID-19 updates is going to be at the front of your mind. It’s good to stay informed, of course, but it’s also easy to scroll yourself into an restless mess.

6. Communicate

If you like your office vibes then the chances are there will be some difficulties in the road when you go remote. The key to get out of this issue is communication especially with your manager and direct reports. You should come up with a plan that lays out expectations from your managers and the projects which you would be handling remotely. Do the same with anyone you usually work collaboratively with throughout the day.

Let me clarify before someone tell me that “You are crazy, this won’t work and this is not possible”. This plan is likely to change as you go. And that’s OK. This is a new situation for everyone. So make sure to circle back and change the plan if problems come up. You’ll also encounter unique challenges as you try to do your job remotely. Don’t hesitate to reach out to the same people you would usually turn to for help—even if you’re not in the same building as them.

Let me conclude this post by saying that “Work From Home” is fun as you have work to do. There is someone who is sitting idle and dependent on few calls and moral support from you guys.