Showing posts with label Cancerian. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cancerian. Show all posts

Sunday, 10 July 2022

Lets Meet a Virgo – A Zodiac Sign

 I decided to stop writing and tried to archive this blog as my personal diary because things are happening in life on a random basis. Before I could do so as I have a curious mind and am a overthinker I thought of writing something about a very special Zodiac sign with whom vibes are on a different level. There are few people who are in my life and share the same Zodiac sign “VIRGO”. Virgos are the balance between two extremes they are loyal and romantic and the same time they can be critical and aloof. If you want to have a good connection with Virgo you must know how to work with a Virgo’s quirks, either they are positive or negative. The most important thing is to be patient and understanding. My Mom and few of my friends are Virgos so I might know what I am talking about.

You might have seen those detective stories where Karamchand is taking his time and going through his thoughts to connect the dots and dissect every tiny detail which he has captured. Using his supernatural deduction, the guy identifies the solution in clear flash. I might not know the Zodiac sign of Karamchand but I am sure he would be Virgo. As this is Virgo’s ultimate super power. They are born with a giant magnifying glass via which they experience the world. They notice almost everything starting from dust on the floor to how you smile when you are in love. They are willing to help make your reality better with their magnified understanding. I think I have set the context then let grab the popcorn so we can decode a Virgo.

A Virgo is the most grounded sign of the Zodiac and they are very flexible, non-obsessive and easy going by nature. Virgos are hard core professionals and if I say they worship their work then I am not over amplifying. They experience series of job changes and after spending time in exploring areas in initial stage of their career they get to their right path and stick to it rebelliously. It may take a while for their partners or family members to come to terms with this however, like the Libra, the Virgos too balance well between their professional and personal lives.

An empathetic soul: A Virgo is always there for the people in need, it does not matter whether they are known to them. On other hand they can be a bit analytical and critical about the people, this trait comes naturally to them. However, if you combine criticism and modesty then people take criticism also with open hand. My favourite trait in Virgo is their great sense of humour and their ability to work under pressure. It comes naturally to them. Count your blessings if you have a Virgo as a life partner this line is dedicated to my Pappa if he decided to read this post.

A variable Sign: It means they are open minded mates, eager to understand your opinion on any latest movie or can plan an impromptu trip. They are open to change within themselves that’s how they roll. For example, I know someone if he/she can go to a religious place to live for 3 months he/she will come with new wardrobe and with religious views along with some new habits. They tend to surprise even best of us.

They are guided by philanthropy and can envision a better world where they try to convert that vision into reality. Don’t get confused it is different from daydreaming and never stop them from doing this else you would become their number one enemy. They might feel insensitive, but they truly want the best for others.

Worst Traits: I don’t know how this section would be perceived when it will reach out to the Virgos I know but I will try to keep this as blunt as Virgos are. Most of the time they feel disappointed just because they can not fix everything around them. They wont accept that the universe is fundamentally flawed. Once they are disappointed, they keep these thoughts to themselves as they are chasing the impossible standards and sometime, they suffer from imposter syndrome (Imposters' suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence). They could try to maintain order, but they must learn that life is messy and that’s why it is interesting.

A secret which I know about Virgo: As we have established that Virgo has high standards, and they are high maintenance, but I know for the fact that they crave simplicity and have a deep connection to nature. They can be happy on coffee date around the corner coffee shop, but you must be ready to listen the critics if the coffee is not good. You can catch them reading books, doing their own medicine making from herbs, having green tea while enjoying the nature. You can also see them analyzing each and everything under the Sun. Virgo operates from a place where inward thinking is the highest skill which means they just recognize the danger of speaking too soon or without being sure. I am not implying that they are unwilling to express their thoughts. There is a difference.

Even after reading and analyzing all these traits, you are interested in dating a Virgo… its an interesting decision. This thought could come because of two reasons either you have your life sorted already or you are open to getting you life together because this journey may be tiring but would be very interesting. Dating a Virgo is not a joke, and it is tough than dating a Libra.

Virgo is critical perfectionist who will call you out on your harmful behavior and help you find solutions to reconcile (this has become my favorite word since I moved to Bangalore) with your demons and in order to do so they can give you silent treatments. Remember, they have the best of intentions for those they love, and they will always communicate with you when they feel the time is right. I might need validation on these thoughts because these are based on my observations and the knowledge which I acquired 7 years ago when I met a Virgo first apart from my Mom.

So even after all this you want to go ahead and ask her out then you must know the following:

Straight forward and No nonsense attitude: They are very straight forward and have zero tolerance to unnecessary flashiness. When it comes to relationship, they hate mind games and withholding emotions. Instead of them making assumptions for you they prefer having you to be straight with them. I personally feel this is the most difficult part for me to go through as it is not a great trait (Being a Cancerian) I have. While pursuing Virgo, you must know that communication is the key. You must ensure that they know about your feelings else they might consider the whole process as a waste of time. They will think just as hard about your relationship as they do the meaning of life, so be willing to share what you think, too.

More thoughtful even from your thoughts: They have a mammoth memory and all the thinking Virgos do means that they know how to make people feel special. They wont need you to be that thoughtful in return as they often like being the most thoughtful person in the room. If you ever able to surprise your Virgo with something just as thoughtful now and then then your bond would be stronger than ever.

They look for someone who is driven, intelligent and mature and the only way to Virgo’s heart is to earn their respect. She would really want to know what you are thinking about, even if it's something as small as what kind of food you want for dinner or what movie you should watch next.

Loyal to a fault but not to be taken for granted: Virgos are loyal and committed to the things they believe in. They are also very organized, practical, and logical. A Virgo is someone who will always stay true to their word and follow through on their commitments. They work hard to make sure that they have a plan ahead of time so that they can be prepared for any eventuality. Virgos will do whatever it takes to get the job done and do it well - even if it means doing more than what is expected of them. So if you ever try to do a smart act then they will promptly hand you a one way ticket out of their lives. They don’t believe in bad investments either in relationships or otherwise.

No one should cheat at all, but you shouldn't cheat on a Virgo especially. Not only will these masters of intuition undoubtedly find out, but you will be breaking the trust of some of the most trusting people in the world. Trust and loyalty like theirs is hard to come by. They will always try their hardest to see the good in their friends and partners.

Kissed Many Frogs: As they have being on top of the game called life. It is most likely that your Virgo has loved many Mr./Ms. Wrong. It would be incorrect to say that they didn’t see the flaws in their partner, but they were willing to fix the flaws and tried to help their partners in their early encounters. In my personal opinion this is a blessing and a curse of being a Virgo as their compassion is taken for granted.

You have to be thankful to your Virgo for what they are doing for you and you must return the same dedication to them. Just try not to be another Frog.

Maa… Bahu Mil Gyi : Virgos are very family oriented and they will be a perfect partner whom you can introduce to your family. They will treat your family like their own and jump to help them whenever they need. Virgos prefer quieter ambiences to loud crowded places which makes family outings much more appealing to them than a wild night out with friends. So you have your family outing planner in your Virgo.

Your parents will love that your Virgo is hardworking with defined goals and these are kinds of people you bring home to your Mom because they are there for you for the long haul. Once you prove yourself to a Virgo they wont let you go easily.

Don’t Force them into things they don’t want to do (read Patience): Introvert by nature they might love you very much but they need their alone time. If the Virgo doesn’t want to go out then try suggesting staying home, eating dinner and Netflix.  Sometimes, a Virgo will need to be completely alone. Do not get upset if a Virgo does not wish to spend time with you. Use this as an opportunity to run tasks or catch up with your friends and family.

When in a relationship, you have to be patient. Be affectionate but don’t over do it like a 18 years old kid doing cute things (Calendar booking) too soon or you might just scare them away. Despite the random socializing, there’s a bit of a loner in every Virgo. They are fiercely independent and plunder some alone time every now and then. When in a relationship, as a partner, it’s imperative for you to understand that Virgos need to maintain an equal balance between their time with you, their family, their friends and their time alone.

At the same time, make sure to not be too clingy or needy because that'll only push them further away. Just be patient and give your Virgo the freedom to do their own thing. I promise they’ll appreciate it!

Ready for Harsh Critics: As you all know by now that Virgos are perfectionist and have an eagle eye when it comes to spot the errors. They notice every little details and sometimes it makes you feel that they are trying to be a know it all. It will become a horror story when you know that they are very vocal about pointing out those mistakes to you (they cant keep this with them as they want to improve you). Virgos are also the most self-critical of the zodiac. They take great pride in their diverse knowledge of things and tend to be very hard on themselves if they fail at a task.

When in a relationship, it can be a bit of a challenge to put up with their ridiculously high standards. As a partner, this is where you need to go the extra mile to support your Virgo when they’re being self-critical and remind them that they're only human too!

Well Informed and intense debaters: Virgos are highly intelligent and knowledgeable that’s the reason they admire this quality in their partner as well. One piece of advice that you must not challenge or question a Virgo unless necessary because they can suddenly become quite angry. Even in relationship, as they have already thought through and in case of debate or an argument they are rarely on the losing side. Generally, they don’t make a case unless they are sure so if this situation comes and you are up against them then you must have your facts right because your Virgo would be ready with all guns and cannons.

When on a date, remember that your goal is to know each other so your questions should be around those thoughts where you could get to know what matters to her. You must pay attention and keep eye contact and when a Virgo speaks up its after careful thought and observations. For example if I need someone to proof read my book then I would go to a Virgo women who would be in my corner rooting for my success and willing to go above and beyond.

In my personal opinion, she is a dreamer and a woman on mission who knows what needs to be done. That’s the only reason I want to be close to a Virgo so I can begin to recognize her. I believe if I would have a privilege of ever seeing her, I will definitely find someone who is nothing short of magical. She would be my source of inspiration who would be ready to listen to my dreams and my bucket list. I know good things come with time and apart from being persistent I cant do much about this Zodiac sign. I want to ask her about her day and want to see how much hard work is being invested for the future she has imagined where things would be perfect.

She’s basically perfect. Maybe *too* perfect

At last I would say, you must cherish your Virgo partner and they’ll cherish you right back. They rarely believe in second chances so don't ever give them a reason to mistrust you.

Sources: Internet and Personal Experience!

Sunday, 27 June 2021

Happy Birthday to Me - 26 June (Cancerian)

Generally, I’m not that enthusiastic about celebrating my own birthday. It’s not that I hate it, exactly, but I just don’t see the need to make a big fuss about it every year. Every year my friends and colleagues do not forget to make this day special... However this Birthday was not at all memorable that is the reason I wanted to pen it down so I can refer it whenever I feel down in Life. Just highlights only 5 people wished me on this day (cant blame my friends as I have deleted by FB) even if I have very less social circle, Family issues, Doctors visits multiple times & End of the day some drama with someone turned this day as a nightmare to remember...! Another reason to write this post because I have felt that I must have a plan for my Birthdays which I have decided to celebrated alone...!!

Most of all, though, the reason I no longer look forward to my birthdays as much as I once did is that I’m missing a key person to celebrate with me. My Grand Mother passed away in 2020 same date. My birthday just have not been the same since and it turned out to be a nightmare after that it not about the said incident but it reminds me all the negative memories.

Spending your birthday alone might leave you feeling lonely. Birthdays are generally fun when you are a child. As you grow older, birthdays become a trouble for some in that they are a reminder that you are getting older.

On the other hand, if you've never enjoyed birthdays, this day of the year may bring back bad memories. Even if you find yourself alone on your birthday this year, try to make it a special day. If you start planning now, you will find it is not that hard. There are lots of possibilities. This I learnt this year when I felt that we are so much dependent on people and have sky high expectations which are not mutual. So thought to give myself a break as next year might be even tougher when I might not receive 12 AM messages for my birthday. I must be ready with worst case scenarios.

My birthday was Yesterday, and while I normally love planning a solo celebration for myself alongside something more social or with family, all of my go-to options were off the table. I couldn’t take myself to dinner and a movie. I couldn’t do any fancy stuff this time as alcohol was off limits and late night calls when you are high ( I missed this the most). I have never felt the enthusiasm of birthday this year and I always say that next year should be better than this year as “This could be my Low but I could not make this day to my Lowest”. I thought a lot and did loads of overthinking and after watching Netflix series I decided to write this post so I could not forget this day and it would be reminder to me that next year would be awesome (Hope is the key). Here are just a few things I thought of to do when you are alone and feeling lonely on your Birthday or for any Day:

Consider getting away for your birthday: This was the TOP on the list I could do next year or I would plan doing whenever I feel like not doing regular stuff or being bored of being nice. Traveling solo means you wont have to worry about coordinating your schedule with anyone else nor you have to do compromises. So If I want to lay down on beach then I will go instead of going towards hills as it would be my chance to do exactly what I want. No Judgement and Phone would be OFF!

If at all possible, try to make travel plans a few weeks in advance in order to get the best deals. This will include making decisions about transportation, making hotel reservations, and packing for your trip.

Do some pointless online shopping: I know you might be searching for this phrase “treat yourself to something nice” seems too obvious to include but hear me out. Most of the time I always ordering necessities even when I’m not, I’m buying something I’ve been planning on treating myself to for a while or making a weird impulse buy I saw recommended on social media.

So on this birthday I gave myself a budget and decided to just… browse without having any goal in mind. It might feel like the same as wandering the mall looking for something unexpected and special, but it scratched the same itch.

Have a good old fashioned movie marathon: I just love watching movies so I can tell you by my experience nothing is more soothing than binge watching your favorite movies or series. Whether you want to re-watch an old favorite or catch up on that one show you’ve been meaning to watch, spending the day falling in without the pressure of accomplishing anything else is a perfect birthday gift to yourself.

Think about the benefits of getting older : I know this would be hard to understand but trust me it is a best way experience that how good you are becoming by passing each year. Getting older is a privilege denied to many so we should be humble about this and think this as blessing. You may feel good as when you were in college you might not look as dapper as you look right now. You can take your won decisions and can live with the outcome of those decisions too. Go through old Facebook albums or search for your birthdate on your phone’s photo gallery. Hell, maybe even go through old photo albums if you have them to really throw it back.

Appreciate the people who are thinking of you: Letting the people we care about know how much they mean to us has a positive, healing benefit for us and for our loved ones as well. There is nothing like being reminded that a person is constantly in your thoughts, with the reminder expressed in a most sincere way. You should not burn those people who have wishes you on this day and make you feel loved and special. I has to say the following messages to these people who remembered this day:

Do you know I never ever feel bored, never ever feel lonely, because you are always in my thoughts and thank you for all the positive influences you had on my life…!

Have a read-a-thon: Have you ever experienced the day in elementary school or in college library where you do not do anything but read all day. Your favourite book and consider to re create that magic as an adult. Your birthday is the perfect time to sit down with a book you've been dying to read. Start that novel or non-fiction book you have had on your list. Clearing your schedule to lose yourself in a great book or two might be the soothing, off-the-grid birthday you’re looking for. I am reading this book currently – An enquiry concerning Human Understanding.

You can Cook (if you like): There is something soothing about cooking whenever I feel SAD or distant or clouded, I just go to the kitchen and cook my favorite food (which I can cook). Not only does it engage all of your senses, but it’s also very rewarding to make a bunch of ingredients come together to form something delicious you can enjoy. If you’re not the most experienced self proclaimed master chef then go easy on yourself. You can choose a ridiculously easy recipe like Korean Noodles or Maggi (with lot of water). The finished product doesn’t have to be pretty or masterful, but it will be a delicious gift to yourself.

Start Fresh – Look Test: I wont do this ever as it is very difficult to look good when GOD was not being kind on you but you can use this opportunity to start fresh in some area in your life. Go the traditional route and do a makeover on your outside. That might mean a new haircut, new outfit, or even something a little riskier like a tattoo. Choose styles that give you confidence and a new outlook. I am thinking to have a Tattoo which will read “एकोहम द्वितीयोनास्ति”

Unwind and relax before bed. As your solo birthday winds down, find a way to relax and pamper yourself just a bit more. Take a steamy shower or a long soak in the tub. Think about purchasing a super-soft, relaxing, new pair of pajamas as one of your presents to yourself. Always remember you are the Hero in your story.

Eventually when I will be doing these things in my next birthday, one thing I am gonna do for sure i.e. switching off my phone for 72 hours and take a break from universe. As they say if you do not feel important or desirable try ghosting people. 

Happy Birthday to me!

Tuesday, 28 April 2020

11 Traits You will get in a Cancerian - Zodiac Sign


At first you deny it then you entertain the idea of it and finally you will become addicted to it. I was one of those people who did not believe in Zodiac sign and astrology. Being God’s favorite child, I was inspired by someone to check the same and I thought there was no harm in reading this stuff. Now it is the time when I can’t spend my day without reading my horoscope along with that person horoscope (just to check if everything is going to be okay between us that day). This quarantine period bring the worst out from me as I decided to write again and this time I decided to write my experience with some of the signs and I will start from myself (Obviously this is my blog) and trust me Badal has forced me to write this post as he believes that my posts are not balanced and it has hidden messages for a single person.

If you have the opportunity to have a Cancerian in your life then I think you are sorted for life if you get to know them well (I know its difficult). Cancer Zodiac may be known as over thinker, sensitive and family oriented sign but the only reason why Cancer make such awesome people because they are caring and emotionally challenged. Here are the 11 reasons to identify a Cancerian around you:

1. They can read your Mind, not literally
There are chances if something is bothering you, your Cancer knows about it before you can bring it up. As they say, Cancers are lead by their instincts and they take the right decision at an opportune time (I know few of you might not agree with my current situation). If I have to explain further, they are the people who understand people by patterns and if something is odd then they would be the first to know.

2. Good Listener – you can say whatever you have to say
Cancers are very sensitive and compassionate listener. When you are talking to them they will try to get into your shoes and see the problem from your point of view. If you are having a bad day at office, in relationship or having any personal problem which need to vent then you can trust a Cancer. Cancers are best of friends (Even they have less friends) and they usually give off an aura that makes you feel more comfortable.

3. They can fix things
Cancerians are known to fix issues and have a knack of coming up with prompt solution and are usually problem solver. As they say Cancerians are neither too technical nor too emotional. They know (if they know or want to know) when to listen to their heart and when to listen to their brain. It is to believe that a Cancerian will not only give the most practical solution to your problem, but will also solve most of it for you.

4. A great sense of humor
This one is my favorite trait and most of the time people took me wrong for my weird (They call it not me) sense of humor. Cancers have the ability to laugh at themselves when they are wrong and they don't mind being the butt of a good, smart joke for the sake of fun, and they're willing to look foolish to get a laugh. If you like clever, thoughtful humor, hang out with a Cancerian. You can sense sarcasm most of the time. Let me close this point by saying,” I am not Sarcastic, My humor has an attitude”.

5. They speak their Mind – Can be Manipulative 
Cancers speak of their mind and won’t be afraid to give their opinion on anything or everything. They will hold up if they give priority to a person/ relation than the opinion which is being asked. Else they’re the kinds of people that will tell you exactly what is on their mind without any kind of filter… even if it’s not pretty. Whether or not you want to hear it, if you NEED to hear it, a Cancerian will say it. Eventually everything would make sense to you too.

6. Cancers are very strong and independent
Cancers might have a reputation of being insensitive or emotionless but they are very sensitive and you should not make that mistake for thinking that they are weak. My dad has told me once that Your Zodiac sign like to surprise people via their efforts and they might go an extra mile to solve something for anyone. In relationships, Cancers are more willing to work through problems instead of giving up and when they give up there is no going back mentally.

7. Cancerian is a supportive and encouraging companion
If I have to compare Cancerian to any mythological Character I will relate it to “Karna” because of their support and companionship. Cancers will support you unconditionally despite of whether you are right or wrong. They would always know what to say to make someone feel better and are great at giving advice that is actually helpful. Cancers hold all their intimate relationships close to heart, which makes them very dependable regardless of what situation they encounter. 

8. Keep you from making bad decisions
Cancers are antidote to the situations where you have “I really shouldn’t have done that” moments. You can avoid that having a Cancerian around you. As far as they love to explore and listen to the ideas even then they are extremely rational and thoughtful when it comes to their decision. Cancers will game of anything but they will draw a line when a situation is potential harmful. When it comes to express they might hold back as they do not want to be a part of the other persons bad decision.

9. Ability to know if you’re being ‘fake’
As they say, if someone is honest with you they expect the same courtesy in return, this is true in case of Cancerian. If you are being fake or they identified you as fake then they will have no time for you. They will move away from your life and you would not be able to identify that transition. They can get inside your heart and mind in no time but not misuse your weaknesses.

10. Cancers are very caring
If astrology to be believed, Cancer is the sign that represents motherhood, hence they have a strong maternal instincts and empathetic by nature. They treat being a best friend like a full time job and they are willing to go above and beyond for the people they love. If you look up “Best Friend” in the dictionary, you would see a picture of a Cancer right next to the definition (This one is for Badal).

If you are close to a Cancer and feelings are mutual then you are family and the family-oriented crab will likely do just about anything for you. You can mess with Cancers, but never mess with their friends or family.

11. They might forgive, but never forget
Cancers are generally pretty easy going sign in their approach to life and they don’t complicate things and take life on a lighter note but don’t mistake that for thinking that they will just allow people to walk all over them. Cancer always tries to treat the people like they way then want to be treated but if somebody violates their trust and privacy or wrong them in some way that they simply can’t forgive. They will be sure to put you in your place in the way that only Cancer can… well they can hold a grudge for a long long time and they aren’t quick to forgive betrayal.

There were many other traits and qualities with the said Zodiac sign but only creative ones got the space in list. Trust me when I say this all Cancerians cannot be the same as their mind and deeds will impact their life and they tend to change. End of the day you born with a Sun Sign but you end up building yourself basis your deeds which is called “Karma”. All these qualities might not be available in all Cancerians and all cancerians can not behave the same.