Its about time that I should write something about my friends and some
of the people who are very special in my Life. I always feel privileged to be
around them and sometimes I doubt if I deserve any of them. Knowing me they
choose to be around and they show me the mirror at times and defend me when I
am not around (I would like to believe that else I will kill him/her). They
handle my mood swings, my crazy thought process and my sky high expectations
from them (I am the one who give Gyan on not expect anything from anyone). Few
of them do status call to check up on me and most of them are connected either
via messenger or telepathy (We talk to each other when we get stuck and need
each other’s help). They stay up late with me dissecting the meaning of life, motivate
me to video call people and propose first girl on my recent calls, sometimes
inspire me to improve myself, keep my secrets and they are the perfect ROI
mutual funds where Risk is not subject to market risk.
Why I love them and want to keep them forever in my portrait of Life
(Yes, I have this stupid portrait where all important people in life are there
and posing). Everyone must have a friends like these. Now let me tell you why
they are the closest to me and they know the actual version of me (I have split
personality too). If you do not have such friends you are missing out. Here’s
why (I will ask money from them for writing this):
They show me the Mirror (No Bullshit)
They say honesty is the best policy, I would say honesty is a sensitive
thing. They will lie out of kindness to protect your feelings because they
think friendship is more important than the truth. On the other hand the trust
is invested where I can say they are not the people to play mind games or go
behind peoples back. When you ask for advice, if they are your best friends
they will cut the chase and without sugar coating they will say what is right.
It is a painful experience and you might not be used to receive such brutal
truth but you are happy because the intentions are good.
They Will Never Lie
They might go with Poker face and keep quite but they won’t lie to your
face. You expect them to tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. Before
someone can think or take this literally (we lie to each others in harmless
manner), this only applies in situations when someone’s trust is on the line.
If they are in the mood then you can get the whatever version of reality to
they are experimenting at that point of time. They will play you like nobody’s
business.
They will bring better of you
They will have big plans for the future and they enjoy strategizing
about how to accomplish them. One of the great thing they provide in a
friendship is a desire to constantly improve themselves and Hope to you and
their focus at work is contagious. When they get to know that there is something
you want, they'll provide a huge amount of direction and motivation to help you
reach your goals.
They Get over Stuff
They would not hold a grudge and would love to end a fight. They will
hold grounds on intellectual fights which you might have with them because
those can impact both of the life. As per them holding grudge is a waste of
energy and clearing things is new cool. Having an argument is quite an
impersonal thing to a Rational, so even if he initially blows up, the
relationship should soon go back to normal with no hard feelings. (He'll/she’ll
still think your logic sucks, though.)
One thing I can say for sure just don’t expect forgiveness if you
seriously harm or betray your best friend. If he/she is sure that you are not
worthy they will end the friendship.
He/She is your 2 AM Buddy
You need a shoulder to cry on, you need someone to talk about your ex.
You need to do brainstorm they will be there for you. I have 3 guys, 1 brother
and 1 Girl on my speed dial for such crises. They might not enjoy small talks
and I have never talk to them formally if my memory serves me correctly but
when you have deep discussion about politics, corona or why earth is round then
they are the best in business. I use them as Devil’s advocate to challenge my
ideas. They are just awesome and you can be you without being judged.
They are your bank locker
If you do not want to discuss your personal life, they are perfectly
fine with that arrangements and if you want to discuss issues then you can be
vulnerable they will hear you out and suggest one idea or two. They are not
interested in exposing your secret. They keep their softer side closely guarded
and expect others to do the same.
Over share and you won't regret it, though. Your true friend will
understand how hard it is to open up and make yourself vulnerable to someone –
they would never abuse that trust.
They set you Free and rescue you in
crises
If you choose to be off the radar for few months or ignoring every
social engagement then you best friend will accept that with open heart. (I do
most of the time, I think Time is precious and I am giving that to someone I
care so it’s worth it). They’d prefer it if you both gave each other the
freedom to come and go as you please. A good friend will check in with you if
it's been too long, but they'll never put demands on you or insist that you hang
out or put a condition which you need to follow. There's no codependence in
this relationship!
No matter what you're struggling with, they'll encourage you to see all
sides of the situation and recognize that there's always a way out. It's all
about perspective.
They are Crazy and exact opposite of normal people
They won’t make friends because they are supposed to but they make
friends because they choose to. If you are friends with this type which means
you are interesting and you are valued. You are a trusted member of a pretty
exclusive club. It takes a lot for them to invest in a friendship, and a lot
more to scare them away once they've made that investment. They'll take you as
you are with all your trait and craziness, and they won't get embarrassed if
you're operating outside of social norms
I have very few friends and people whom I can trust and can take bullet
for them. For me being in my elite group means a lot to me. It’s a promise that
I will be there with you to the bitter end and we can laugh post the dust of
uncertainty gets settled. Always remember if someone tries to hurt you trust me
I know where to bury dead bodies too (Just Kidding). Thank you for being there
with me.
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