Love is not Enough ?

 "The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you've heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is irrational." ~Unknown

Afraid to Fall in Love Again - Curious Case

It's not that I don't believe in love... I am very strong believer in it actually... I am just deathly terrified that it doesn't believe in me...!! 

Why do we always desire or have feelings for one when you can be completely indifferent to another person? Why do we fall in love in most uncomfortable scenarios? Why it is difficult to find out the reason for falling in love? Why can we not stop that feeling just by putting some logical reasoning or counter arguments? Why we keep on falling for the same person against every odds? All these questions are remained unanswered for me and I feel scared to fall in Love because it gives you the responsibility of the other person without letting that person know. For me love is responsibility to be happy together and it’s a raw form of the highest emotion which you can not control. Secondly once you are in love there is no Control + Z button to undo it. Lets try to explore the reasons why we are afraid to fall in Love via this post.

Most of the people including me fall in love with someone who unconsciously reminds us that we are home and safe. The same feeling which you have experienced in childhood which is already placed in your subconscious memory. The said resemblance, which can be difficult to see consciously, can be gestural, in relation to opinions or even habits. The resemblance, therefore, plays an undeniable role in the attraction because it awakens a deep and powerful feelings inside you.

In the mind from childhood we see all aspect of the life and find some misplaced parts of the puzzle which we call life and we start searching for those missed parts all the time. For example, if, when you were a child, your parents were keeping you in check and allow you to take decision basis your experience and learning, you will have to unconsciously seek a partner who will fill this gap. So in this case, a person who will not be afraid of putting her opinion forward and express their feelings.

Thus, we unconsciously seek in our partner, to remedy a psychological need, a wound to be healed, a lack to be filled, which according to us, we missed during our life until now. As they say we wander our life looking for our twin who completes us and which on certain points is also different from us. For example, if you are a spontaneous person, you may be looking for a thoughtful and composed partner because you do not have this quality.

I always said and keep on saying, women are mature than man any given point of time if they take a call basis their heart and mind. Men are usually thrilled about falling in love but none of them will admit it. They all, deep inside, crave love and affection like everyone do. But they will not talk about it in open and keep on thinking on imaginary scenarios because rejection rate is very high and everyone is afraid of rejections.

Sometimes, his fear of commitment or his current situation can lead you on a wrong path. You may just give up on him because you think he is not that into you. He is not showing emotions, he is probably even very nervous around you. Trust me it does not mean he does not have feelings for you or he is not into you. It can be the complete opposite. He does have the hots but he is scared to fall in love.

Here is how you’ll definitely know he is just chickening out and needs a little push because he likes you but is afraid to admit it.

#His Mixed Signals (All sort of)

You might go crazy trying to decode his message. This happens when he himself does not know how to act around you that’s why he is acting so weird. One moment he is very much interested in you and the next he is nowhere to be found. He is confused with his stand and is very afraid to act on it. He likes you for some reason but something might be stopping him to act on it. You need to find out that reason.

There could be a chances that he had a broken heart or any unlucky relationship before and he is afraid to repeat that story so he is acting that way where he might be seeking your clarity.

#He is slow

He wants to take things slow and practically keep it light. Well, this means he likes you but (and there is always a but) he is probably not ready to be with you for real. He definitely has some unresolved issues that life has thrown at him and he needs to deal with them. He knows there is no going back from there. What would happen if he gets rejected and that thought would drive him crazy. Since he is still overwhelmed with everything new going on in his life, you, he needs a bit of time to process things and get rid of his fear.

Don’t assume right away that he doesn’t like you if he keeps you at arm’s length and most of the time he does not know what to talk. Leave him alone and go on living your life. If he realizes with time that he has loved you all this time, great, if not, you’ll get by fine without him.

#He is always there

Even if you both are not together, he will always be there for you whenever you need a helping hand. He can be a person to whom you can bring any stuff and he will come along with you as a friend or as a partner in crime. If you are in trouble, he will be there to get you out of it.

Real friends do that but men who secretly love you do that too. He’ll stick around when there is no one else left. That’s how you’ll know he likes you but is scared to fall for you.

#He is a Google Reminder

He will care for all small stuff and remember all important things for you. Even small stuff which no one else will give a damn. When you are sick, he will follow up with you and this shows that he is interested in you, as these small details that no one notices is what separates him from the others.

He is into whatever you are into for sure. Men have this urge to impress women they like even if they are not aware of it. He will listen attentively and probably say that he shares most of your interests even if he doesn’t and in longer run he will learn it for you.

#Gets Jealous all the time

He will never show you exactly what he is jealous about and trust me he will never tell you or talk about it but you will see from the way he behaves. You will notice he will change the subjects or cut your call by telling there is another call if you’re talking about your guy friends, or he’ll get nervous and he won’t be able to control his feelings or reactions.

This is kind of cute and by now you would have known this guy if he is harmless of not. Jealousy can be a bitch and its hard to get rid of it but as a indication you can get that he is afraid of losing you and he likes you but doesn’t know how to deal with it. Most of the time when the guy would know that you are into your other friend then the arm length distance tend to increase.

#Overprotective

When a man in love, Logic disappears. He will do somethings in life which are not really logical for example calling you multiple times to check if you reach home and check on you unless he gets a revert. Sometimes these things get you irritated but you can not change this habit in him.

He will behave the way his heart tells him and not his mind. All rationality will be gone. If he thinks that talking to you is hampering you or he is disturbing you, he might stop talking to you. Trust me a man in love only sees you and fears you might get hurt and wants to be there to protect you.

#Follow you religiously

He will use you as a black board and dump all the information to you and all the incidents which took in the day. He always keep an eye on you, Let’s say you are at the same party and every time you look at him, he is looking right back at you.

Even though a lot of other people are around him and he is actively participating in conversations, he will subconsciously look for you and acknowledge your presence. 

So there is nothing called perfect communication and a Man in love definitely does not have when they are faced with the woman of their dreams. They will do their best to hide their feeling early on and if someone is saying that he is honest upfront on everything he would be lying or he would not talk about the topics where he has to lie.

Taking the representation from all those man I wanted to say that: we hide our feelings because we do not want to get ahead of ourselves and we will want to know if our feelings are reciprocated before we open up.

We might be mysterious and weird but we are definitely not fake…!!

Yes... I am a Capricorn Girl / Guy

As they say without observations you are not as human as you should be and somehow, I believed in this. Even I did not care to validate the saying. Most of the time we believe the only concept which is called “theory of convenience”. I have always tried to write about my experience, feelings and people around me so I can create a blog which I could refer when I will be sitting idle alone after 40 years.

There was someone who tend to tell me all the stupid things happening around him/her and I always pretended that I was listening. Few more people around me are Capricorn and keeping all those feelings and knowledge intact, I decided to write this post. One of the Capricorn has asked me recently as what I think about her, This is my reply and I hope it will reached to her via a Cancerian.

Capricorns are born between December 22nd and January 20th and belong to the Earth element of the zodiac. The Earth sign crew are all practical, self reliant, passive and ambitious. You would want them in your corner... but maybe not at a party. When we specifically talk about female Capricorn, the Capricorn women of the world can vary greatly when it comes to their looks, cultures, hobbies, and careers. All these Capricorn zodiac traits are more or less superficial. Although the Capricorn females are often different from each other on the outside, they are alike in the way they think and feel about many topics. This makes them great partners in life, as well as friends or collaborators.

Have you ever wondered what is it that makes Capricorn tick?

#1: Responsible

I have seen them to be accurate at keeping track of important things such as passwords, birthdays and all-important stuff which I considered as not so important (read useless). They own up the mistake and their learning capability allow them to move forward with force and allow them to successfully use these mistakes at the road to glory. They already as hard working and ambitious which makes them highly responsible types with a mature, rational, and disciplined approach to following the rules and pursuing their goals.

#2: REALISTIC (read: pessimistic)

They say they are realistic but I defined them as pessimistic. Their feet are so rooted that sometimes they will only focus on the negatives rather than the possibilities of positives. I am being told that Capricorns are being practical and grounded and want to see all the aspect before taking a decision. According to me being practical and grounded isn't always a good thing, especially when it causes you to focus on all the negatives in life.

When these people think too much about how things look rather than how things feel for them, they get stuck in a cycle of negativity and mood swings which makes other signs very helpless in convincing this zodiac. They want things to be perfect and Perfectionism is a problem for many Capricorns, as it frequently causes them to perceive failure as the ultimate dissatisfaction.

#3: AMBITIOUS (read: workaholic)

They are very obsessed and determined to show other people what they are made of. They are extremely ambitious people with lofty goals they're sure that they can fulfill, as long as they continue to work hard and put in as much effort as possible. They are always striving to do better, better than themselves and better than others⁠—and this force is what ultimately sustains them during those long, exhausting hours they dedicate to whatever it is they're trying to achieve.

I can say with surety if you are looking for someone to partner with on a project, a Capricorn should definitely be one of your top choices!

#4: Hardworking

Capricorns are one of the most serious, diligent signs of the zodiac. They are persistent when it comes to specific tasks, such as work-related projects and school papers, and work hard to ensure they get the result they want (whether that's a promotion or an A+, for example). This trait is by far one of the best things about Capricorns: they never give up!

Being a workaholic puts a ton of stress and pressure on Capricorn and is one way the sign works against its biggest strength. Since Capricorns can be extremely hard on themselves, it's advisable that they take the occasional break to concentrate on their physical and emotional health.

In short, never underestimate the tenacity of a Capricorn, I have never underestimated for sure!

#5: Stubborn

High on ambition and diligence makes this sign stubborn and they believe in holding high standards. As they value tradition and have a very strict way of thinking which makes it difficult for them to have open mind and you will find it almost impossible to change their mind. They're just too focused on the practical and worldly side of things to look beyond themselves.

In my opinion, its their way or the highway, a mentality that makes it understandably difficult for people to get along well with Capricorn.

Capricorns might be overly practical and stubborn at times, but they're also devoted and loyal to those they love. Please find below an overview how these people behave in relationships:

#Capricorn in Love

As we already know that they are a bit stiff and reserved but that does not mean they cant be an ideal partners. Trust me once you get to know a Capricorn on a deeper and more personal level, they will stay committed to you for life. You have to take a chance to get them to open up emotionally and trust me its worth for their loyalty. When it comes to romantic relationships, the Capricorn personality is an unusual combination of intensely devoted but lacking in emotion.

Sometimes I feel that they treat their romantic relationship as their Job in which they put in all the efforts. This practical approach can sometimes make the relationship feel clinical or unnatural but that’s not the case as it is just the way Capricorn best express their feelings.

#Capricorn in Family and Friendship

As this is established that Capricorns are loyal and hardworking which makes them more reliable person and they would be always there for you. As they are one of those who remember all important things hence they tend to feel strong connections to family traditions and their past, and generally look forward to birthdays, holidays, and communal dinners where they can enjoy in their memories with loved ones.

Outside family, Capricorns usually only have a few close friends but are reliable and will remain close to them for life specially with those who get to connect with them intellectually.

#Capricorn in Business

Capricorns do well in almost any type of job, so long as it affords them stability and the opportunity to succeed professionally (read: make a lot of money). If you want to get best out of them you have to make them in-charge of the work environment. As mentioned, this sign is known for pulling all-nighters and working until exhaustion, which can be both a good and a bad thing.

#Yes, I am a Capricorn Girl

Known for her sarcastic personality and dry sense of humor, a usually quiet Cap may surprise you with her loud belly laugh when something amuses her. Often described as conventional and traditional, many Capricorns are the secret weirdos of the Zodiac. She is Not one to wear their hearts on their sleeves, they may not give you any idea how they really feel. Learning to communicate clearly in the moment is always a boon to this stable and grounded earth sign, as she can often get stuck in her own ways. She always want to labelled everything in her world and find it difficult to shift from Plan A to plan B even if Plan B is awesome. Serious, focused, and hard-working, it’s great when a Capricorn can let loose a bit and find time to have fun, even though even her outings and vacations are carefully planned ahead of time.

At the end a Cap can be a role model for 21^st century people, some time their appearances are deceiving as few of them can keep up  appearances by putting smile their face and sounding happy even when they're battling demons, depressed, and finding little joy in their accomplishments or in their day-to-day life.

This post will become the longest and most of the time you may also loose the interest. Those of us that a born under the this zodiac sign are often the hardest workers of the zodiac and love nothing more than getting ahead in life. They are ambitious, determined, materialistic and strong.

No wonder they are always ahead of the curve! Don't you think they're just great?