Heal Your Partner from their Heart Break - Relationship

As they say if you fall in love the second time always go for the second option because if the first person was good enough for you then you won’t be able to fall for anyone. I hate to admit it that most of the time I judge people or character basis my perception and knowledge of the situation. Since childhood I was told that if you are good you will be encountered with good people in your life. Till now I am unable to prove this either right or wrong. When people leave a place to other place they carry all the memories of that place along with the stuff which was useful for them at that point of time. Emotional attachment is the reason for carrying those belongings. I still remember carrying love letters, audio recordings and greeting cards from my earlier relations (yeah all these were used to be in physical format). Carrying them was a hardship for me mentally and physically and I was so attached to these things that I stopped looking brighter side of the life. I always compare each situation with my earlier shortcomings or bad decisions.

I knew what needs to be done but what about this baggage and emotional attachments I am carrying which I loved at that point of time. I was sitting with a road side person (don’t tell my Mom or anyone for that matter) and having the fun of my life and he has asked me one day that he got a better place for begging which is very far from that place and he has to pay INR 100 daily for that place. In existing place he used to give INR 50 and earn 3 to 5 hundred everyday and he was there for 10 years. When I asked that what will happen to this place. He replied that is not his problem if he wanted to reach somewhere then he has to leave from a place completely else he won’t reach. This was eureka moment for me and I came back home and burned all the physical evidence of my toxic or beautiful or mutually exclusive relationships. I know most of you won’t feel it but trust me I find it comforting and I was able to concentrate on my job hunt ( yeah I was jobless  too at that point of time).

It’s the same way in partnerships: romantic or friendly. And what do you do when your new lover/friend has an extra full cart with scars of previous relations and bad memories along with broken thought process. Lets assume the worst case scenario if your partner barely made it out of their previous relationship with their sanity or worse. Then trust me knowingly or unknowingly it’s a source of conflict in your new relationship. Here is few tried and tested (few of them might be in testing phase by someone else too) points to be considered with a disclaimer that I am not a expert:

Patience of the Buddha

Patience is the key to everything. In any relationships there are the issues which you can see and few of them you cannot see and most of the time you assume because you are afraid to ask. Asking someone who is still reeling from the conflict and other attachments to be patient is a glorious thought but not realistic. You might get yourself blocked out from the scenario. So if you are the one with objectivity and holds the responsibility to be there in scenario then set firm boundaries and love unconditionally (even if you are yet to ask her out).

How many times have you experience this: “hey, you have told that you would call me and reach for dinner date around 7 and now its 8 or you did not even call me to tell that you wont be able to make it or you did not drop a single message.”

Now you are on a cross road where you can communicate in a neutral tone or fight about thousand other things. Trust me its always important to get their side of the story with empathy and compassion. Let’s say in this scenario your friend/lover has shown this more than once and the reason was that they were out with friends and lost the track of time. In this case you must say that you value his/her friends and are completely comfortable that they are having a good time too but instead of just being angry you should ask her/him to value you the same way. If you just show the anger then it will become an issue instead of the problem that you felt left alone.

Don’t buy in

Buying word used in casino where you have to invest certain amount to sit on a table to play. So in same manner just don’t buy in with considering all the aspect about your relationship. You must not make a mistake about it as frustration, anger, control issues along with trust issues all stem from unresolved hurt and pain. Most of the time in a new relationship it’s what your partner fears that you will do based on their experience with others.

You new partner may overreact one day when you say that you are going out with your friends. A common response from me would be to get pissed off, leave and deal with fallout later. I wont recommend it that why this post come in existence. You need to ask what is the reason and most of the time they have a fear that you might found someone else and will cheat on them. Its about feeling insecure and this feeling comes when you think your partner is more dynamic than you. You have to make them feel comfortable as they’ve got to find a way to trust you and you’ve got to find a way to be trustworthy. The road goes both ways. It’s necessary to take a risk and be honest even if it means your partner decides they want to go another direction.

Look at yourself first

It’s always easier to see problems in others than seeing yourself. But you can not help someone else if you haven’t been able to help yourself. So first of all instead of being a counselor you must sort your issues first. I always believed in that and till the time I am clean and ready to move forward I wont go for the next step. I think if you go ahead with broken thoughts and feeling along with no clarity to the coming future then you are destroying multiple lives.

For me Love means being ready, prepared and able to see and fight your deepest pain or joy and to accept it head on. Sometime Sometimes helping another means letting them witness your vulnerability, your trust, your joy, and your pain. Showing them how it is, instead of telling them how it should be. Love while you can and be truthful with the rest.

Let go of ‘perfection ‘You are not Amir Khan

Lets admit that being human is great thing in this universe but we are far from perfect. The basic problem with perfection is that it will overlook the fact that you cant be perfect at everything. When you were busy in achieving perfection in one area the other area would be suffering at the same point of time. When you put your perfectionist hat you are going to cause trouble in your relationship. If you are still not able to understand then let me say in more polite manner that explore how your need to be perfect or right might be affecting your relationship, then loosen the hold and open up to enjoying your forgiving, fun, honest, imperfect relationship. Trust me the most memorable moments in life are those which are not planned. I always miss the morning coffee which was not at all planned and perfect and even I hate the taste of the coffee sometimes but the moment was awesome and that is still fresh in memory lane.

Don’t be a Judge

They say it’s not over till it’s over, and I find it to be true. Assume a scenario where your partner still suffer or have strong feelings about their previous relationship then you are entering into her/his life as a third party (Sounds Bad, I know) when it comes to energy and emotions. Read it carefully which I am about to write, don’t be jealous as that third party its important for you to truly understand both side of the dynamics. As they say when you do not know the type of the knot how will you going to open it.

As the heading suggests don’t be a judge as you are going to encourage your partner to talk about what happened and for you to listen to what’s being said and what’s not being said. In a relationship like this it is important to be willing and able to put yourself in both positions and consider what you would do, in that manner you have clear understanding of the mechanics. I didn’t say it would be easy.

It’s easy to accept that the way you feel and the things you believe are normal – they may be, but that doesn’t mean they’re working for you. There is always the possibility for a new kind of normal. Old wounds have many ways of stealing into relationships. They can disrupt a connection; prevent a connection from reaching take-off. When you are willing to take a leap of faith then everything is beautiful. Love will heal you in longer run as Love is the answer for all the pain. Trust me the day will come when the walls need to fall and the armor needs to soften. Till the time Hang ON! She is worth It!

Traits You will Get in a Libra - Zodiac Sign

As they say, empty mind is devil’s workshop and when a over thinker moves towards self quarantine then it will become a deadly weapon. In this post I will write my experience with two of my most favorite people in my life and cause of them I have interest in astrology and palmistry. Both have mood swings like no other and I am still trying to know both of them like a school going kid. Fortunately both of them share the same Zodiac sign which makes this post must to write. Before I move further I would like to call this post as my first paper for the PHD, I am doing on someone.

As a cardinal air sign, a Libra’s personality is very much about relating to others. They are often considered the nicest, most charming people in the world and they are the favorite of almost everyone they meet. They have a tendency to be magnets for people, drawing many people to them. They are attractive; this has already been deeply established in the Zodiac. They often want things to go smoothly, they can stir up a lot of controversy with their attitude and their behavior at times (I guess both of them would not agree).

One most important point that Libras cannot be rushed and they demand space whenever they feel pressured or crowded.  They are, however, not opposed to putting pressure on others, and often think that it will add to their characters. Libras tend to very outspoken and their views at times can rub a lot of people the wrong day.

Have you ever wondered what is it that makes Libra tick?

Those of us that a born under the Libra zodiac sign are often known for having logical minds and fair judgment but there’s also a lot more to the Libra sign that many people have no idea about.

If you see them closely then you will understand that they are really special and very few people have strong traits like them. Please find the few of them below:

They are very charming, charismatic and romantic souls

These people are charismatic. This Quality gives them the ability to win everyone’s heart with their charming attitude. They are always in front when it comes to popularity and everyone wants to be their friend. So you need to think twice before you contradict them trust me most of the time I just surrender to avoid the conflict. They have long lasting impression on others as they are blessed with inner beauty and outer charm and you can just envy their personality (I do at times).

If they love someone or something, they will go to the ends of the earth to show their love and trust e they can win anyone over with their sweet talk. It is advisable not to play with their emotions because it is real. With their ability and personality to sweet talk, it is hard not to fall for them, but once you do, there is no way you regret it.

They are honest, Calm, emotionally intelligent 

As I told I have a lot to talk about this sign so combining all the traits which are self explainable, Libra will surely stand for “Honesty is the Best Policy”, they are very honest and they stick to the truth and they won’t be badmouthing you behind your back. Since they are honest with you they expect the same courtesy in return (This expectation everyone has but few of them get that). They are not among those who escape from the situation after committing some wrong doing.

They are known for their calmness and they never lose their temper (I know one of them never loses). If they do, you (This should be me) have done something which exceeds their limits. Their relaxed attitude allows them to have more friends than enemies.

They have a firm hold on their emotions. They do not go around pouring out their anger or worries on other people (Sometime I want them to do). They are aware of their surroundings and will try their best not to make a scene. One of the best qualities which I like about them is their empathetic nature – they will not judge you! You can trust them with your secrets and you can cry with them (One of them is pro at this)

Creative Minds and love challenges

Having creative mind helps them a lot especially in the real work setting in the industry they are into. These people happens to be one of the biggest daydreamers you will ever meet (I know both of them will not agree and might kill me for this) and at times they refuse to face the reality. They have deep thinking that is the reason their extreme imaginations get difficult to execute. My advice would be that they must learn to avoid prolonged decision and be quick thinker in life. 

Let me quote a scene from “Titanic” where the Hero asked the heroin “Where to Miss?” the Heroin who must be Libran replied, “To the stars”. This is the limit of Libra’s imagination.

These people are naturally competitive in nature. Challenges in life are the most common part in their life, they like to accept challenge and challenge others too. Trust me they can do anything to win the race. This is my personal experience that this quality (To win the race) in even the smallest tasks of their everyday lives, the way these people takes every single competition as the question of life and death. If you are in their team, you have to keep up the pace and seek help from God to match the pace.

Very Optimistic and Problem solver (Life Hacks)

When it comes to achieving their dreams and goal, failure can not stop them. They do not get settled before attaining perfection. Their positive thinking and God loving nature allows them to try till they succeed, they never give up. Trust me their positivity is contagious too.

Believe me or not, Libra’s have answers to everything. You have a problem they will come up a solution which will suits to everybody. If you ever have a problem, do not hesitate to ask. For all we know, they probably have the answers to Corona problems too (This is not sarcasm, If they think they will have) not vaccine of course. I will look forward to know the Zodiac sign of the scientist who would discover vaccine for Corona.

If you are depressed or are going through a difficult situation always ask a Libra for advice.

Easily Get Frustrated

They get frustrated when they have to deal with a negative person who do nothing but criticize them and poke holes in every single idea that they have (Personal experience, you have to deal with wrath of Titans). They would like to hand out with people who have “can do” approach to life and will keep social distance to the people who constantly try to bring them down. As they are very careful with their moves this is the reason why they get offended by other people’s rough behaviors. So my advice when you are with these people, make sure you watch your behavior (I am forced to write this else they are very sweet people: P)

Decision making might be an issue?

Most of the Libra’s are extremely annoying because of their nature of giving too personal remarks, without even knowing that they already hurt someone. I would consider this as a negative trait in this sign. Making their own great decision can be very difficult for these people and it is even harder to learn in their mistake. However, they can always win the situation by utilizing their rational mind and accurate intuitions.

They can hurt people most often but get the score settled easily

If I have to write this I would say these individual don’t have control over their anger, you can call them short tempered. They hurt others most often but as they are the nicest people in Zodiac, this is the reason they recover their quarrels easily. I am told and would like to believe that They can get very high in anger but never keep anything in the heart.

I think this post can become the longest I have ever written so bringing this to an end.These people are strongly motivated, optimistic and competitive and their traits are unique from others. Surely not all Libra’s possess all these traits but you will definitely find this quality in the depth of their personality. They like to deal with the situation as they come.

No wonder they are always positive! Don't you think they're just great?

11 Traits You will get in a Cancerian - Zodiac Sign

At first you deny it then you entertain the idea of it and finally you will become addicted to it. I was one of those people who did not believe in Zodiac sign and astrology. Being God’s favorite child, I was inspired by someone to check the same and I thought there was no harm in reading this stuff. Now it is the time when I can’t spend my day without reading my horoscope along with that person horoscope (just to check if everything is going to be okay between us that day). This quarantine period bring the worst out from me as I decided to write again and this time I decided to write my experience with some of the signs and I will start from myself (Obviously this is my blog) and trust me Badal has forced me to write this post as he believes that my posts are not balanced and it has hidden messages for a single person.

If you have the opportunity to have a Cancerian in your life then I think you are sorted for life if you get to know them well (I know its difficult). Cancer Zodiac may be known as over thinker, sensitive and family oriented sign but the only reason why Cancer make such awesome people because they are caring and emotionally challenged. Here are the 11 reasons to identify a Cancerian around you:

1. They can read your Mind, not literally

There are chances if something is bothering you, your Cancer knows about it before you can bring it up. As they say, Cancers are lead by their instincts and they take the right decision at an opportune time (I know few of you might not agree with my current situation). If I have to explain further, they are the people who understand people by patterns and if something is odd then they would be the first to know.

2. Good Listener – you can say whatever you have to say

Cancers are very sensitive and compassionate listener. When you are talking to them they will try to get into your shoes and see the problem from your point of view. If you are having a bad day at office, in relationship or having any personal problem which need to vent then you can trust a Cancer. Cancers are best of friends (Even they have less friends) and they usually give off an aura that makes you feel more comfortable.

3. They can fix things

Cancerians are known to fix issues and have a knack of coming up with prompt solution and are usually problem solver. As they say Cancerians are neither too technical nor too emotional. They know (if they know or want to know) when to listen to their heart and when to listen to their brain. It is to believe that a Cancerian will not only give the most practical solution to your problem, but will also solve most of it for you.

4. A great sense of humor

This one is my favorite trait and most of the time people took me wrong for my weird (They call it not me) sense of humor. Cancers have the ability to laugh at themselves when they are wrong and they don't mind being the butt of a good, smart joke for the sake of fun, and they're willing to look foolish to get a laugh. If you like clever, thoughtful humor, hang out with a Cancerian. You can sense sarcasm most of the time. Let me close this point by saying,” I am not Sarcastic, My humor has an attitude”.

5. They speak their Mind – Can be Manipulative 

Cancers speak of their mind and won’t be afraid to give their opinion on anything or everything. They will hold up if they give priority to a person/ relation than the opinion which is being asked. Else they’re the kinds of people that will tell you exactly what is on their mind without any kind of filter… even if it’s not pretty. Whether or not you want to hear it, if you NEED to hear it, a Cancerian will say it. Eventually everything would make sense to you too.

6. Cancers are very strong and independent

Cancers might have a reputation of being insensitive or emotionless but they are very sensitive and you should not make that mistake for thinking that they are weak. My dad has told me once that Your Zodiac sign like to surprise people via their efforts and they might go an extra mile to solve something for anyone. In relationships, Cancers are more willing to work through problems instead of giving up and when they give up there is no going back mentally.

7. Cancerian is a supportive and encouraging companion

If I have to compare Cancerian to any mythological Character I will relate it to “Karna” because of their support and companionship. Cancers will support you unconditionally despite of whether you are right or wrong. They would always know what to say to make someone feel better and are great at giving advice that is actually helpful. Cancers hold all their intimate relationships close to heart, which makes them very dependable regardless of what situation they encounter. 

8. Keep you from making bad decisions

Cancers are antidote to the situations where you have “I really shouldn’t have done that” moments. You can avoid that having a Cancerian around you. As far as they love to explore and listen to the ideas even then they are extremely rational and thoughtful when it comes to their decision. Cancers will game of anything but they will draw a line when a situation is potential harmful. When it comes to express they might hold back as they do not want to be a part of the other persons bad decision.

9. Ability to know if you’re being ‘fake’

As they say, if someone is honest with you they expect the same courtesy in return, this is true in case of Cancerian. If you are being fake or they identified you as fake then they will have no time for you. They will move away from your life and you would not be able to identify that transition. They can get inside your heart and mind in no time but not misuse your weaknesses.

10. Cancers are very caring

If astrology to be believed, Cancer is the sign that represents motherhood, hence they have a strong maternal instincts and empathetic by nature. They treat being a best friend like a full time job and they are willing to go above and beyond for the people they love. If you look up “Best Friend” in the dictionary, you would see a picture of a Cancer right next to the definition (This one is for Badal).

If you are close to a Cancer and feelings are mutual then you are family and the family-oriented crab will likely do just about anything for you. You can mess with Cancers, but never mess with their friends or family.

11. They might forgive, but never forget

Cancers are generally pretty easy going sign in their approach to life and they don’t complicate things and take life on a lighter note but don’t mistake that for thinking that they will just allow people to walk all over them. Cancer always tries to treat the people like they way then want to be treated but if somebody violates their trust and privacy or wrong them in some way that they simply can’t forgive. They will be sure to put you in your place in the way that only Cancer can… well they can hold a grudge for a long long time and they aren’t quick to forgive betrayal.

There were many other traits and qualities with the said Zodiac sign but only creative ones got the space in list. Trust me when I say this all Cancerians cannot be the same as their mind and deeds will impact their life and they tend to change. End of the day you born with a Sun Sign but you end up building yourself basis your deeds which is called “Karma”. All these qualities might not be available in all Cancerians and all cancerians can not behave the same.

Perfect Date Ideas - Lets decode it

So we always struggle in our life to find out the perfect plan to spend some quality time with our loved ones or love interest or your potential boyfriend. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or thinking about going back out into the world to find that perfect someone, you would need some time to understand your partner. Then we have a tough time in planning the perfect date and if the planning needs to be done by a Guy (Specially me) then it can turn out to be a disaster in no time.

You need to come up with a good date idea, make sure everything goes smoothly, and still you have something interesting to say while you’re together unless you are sucker in talking like me or you have a person who is too good in communication. This can often be difficult, they are essential.

Let me start with saying that I am no expert in planning dates and giving away ideas but I believe we must consider few points before planning anything for your girl. Otherwise pray to God that your partner should be someone who can plan this for you and you can have relax stress less life and be habitual with those taunts which you will listen throughout your life (If she thinks you might be the one).

Let’s take a look at a very simple formula that will ensure a perfect date every time.

The Meal

The food connection is very important and as I love food so I thought this would be the first point in this list. The meal is the time that the two of you sit down together and have an opportunity to talk to each other. It’s a great time to learn more about her and ask a lot of questions and listen carefully (Have patience and do not stop her in between).

What would you eat is really dependent on who the girl is and where you are in the relationship. You must figure it out basis her choices. Here are few pointers for picking up the restaurant:

      • Quiet is better

      • An Awesome View (it works)

      • Tables are better

      • Always pay the full tab (You are the one who is taking her out)

Find ways to engage with each other

The activity is the second fundamental component of a date. It can be almost anything as long as it involves the two of you being active together. The worst thing you can do is go through all this planning an then spend all your time on your phone or you get involve on small talks in which either one of you are interested in.Find ways to interact and engage with each other. For example, if you are heading out to a restaurant, try coming up with some unique conversation starters to ask each other. 

Second, any guy can take a girl out to dinner. Being able to combine a good meal with a fun conversation is an art. This is where you tell her you’re not like the other guys she’s been disappointed with. It shows her you are fun and will keep her interested.

Focus on Her means put away the phones

The best part about any date is that quality time. So, to maximize that time together, eliminate all distraction. Put the phone on silent or Do not disturb so you can get emergency calls. Some of the cases it is very difficult to get it executed when the girl is workaholic in that case practice patience.

As we are talking about distractions, so if you are in a restaurant, make sure you stay away from TV’s. Even just the announcers and people cheering in the background can take away from the moment. Even if only for a few minutes, that dedicated focus can be so powerful in helping you both connect with each other.

Find out Who She Really Is

Let’s admit that on the first very few interactions and conversations are almost fake. You are both on your best behavior as you maintain eye contact, sitting up straight and taking about non-controversial subjects. You judge each other royally. So basically when you start your conversation with her where you are both able to relax a little and see who the other person really is. This is because you are allowing the person to see through you so that person can decide if she can trust you or she is in interested in you.

These conversations will tell you a lot of the things you want to know about her:

      • Is she fun and can understand your Jokes?

      • Does she have trouble letting her hair down?

      • Do we enjoy being friends with you?

      • Do we able to trust each other and formalities are not there?

      • Are you guys comfortable in talking anything with each other

If you have been in the relationship for a while, you may already know the answers to some of these questions. Let’s not over think it…

Collect memories

Personally I am not good at collecting memories as I get too much involved with the person that forget to click pictures and mark it as a date to remember. When we go to the mountain and into the woods throw away your camera into the lake as I won’t need pictures to remember the moments we create. I believe, when we close our eyes those moments will come in front of you like a picture and those would be perfect. But these might not work for you guys so don’t forget to collect memories! Whether it’s a photo of you both, a little souvenir, or some other memento, having something to look back on can help remind you of those feelings!

Start creating those memories now! You’ll be glad to have them years down the road when you can look back on them and smile.

Few Tips which might come handy

Below are the tips which can be useful and they’re what will get you a second date or keep your long term girlfriend interested.

Music : Music sets the mood. Trust me and if you both have same taste in music then that experience would be beyond words. If you’re somewhere quiet, play some music that matches the mood you want for your date. Even if you are on a road trip music would the vital which will set the mood right.

Flowers : Someone has told me once that there is not a woman alive that doesn’t like flowers. Roses are romantic, but are a little bit played out. Try something different like orchid or lily. I might write some point of time the color code of the expression but for now avoid yellow and that color over signifies friendship.

Privacy : This is not a hard and fast rule as it varies from situation to situation. For example, you don’t want to go to a restaurant where you are the only couple and you don’t want to be in a bar full of people and not be able to hear each other.

Calmness : This is more a mindset than anything. Like most things in life, you can not plan a perfect date and expect everything will fall in place the way you want it to be. Always remember that moment with your loved one is important and rest of the things do not matter. So, be flexible and change things around if needed. The dates that don’t go perfectly are often the most memorable.

Put It Together

There are few more ideas which you can consider as a date for your special person:

1. Pack a picnic and take her for a light hike

2. Go for a road trip to a fun restaurant

3. Go to the zoo and eat at a local burger joint

4. Cook her dinner and Netflix or movie night (This is my favorite idea as I love to cook food for the person I love and care)

Let me close this post by saying that planning is good to give your loved ones the perfect experience. Trust me when you know that your partner is right and feelings are mutual then everything around you will fall into places the way you want them to be. 

If you have any other ideas than these please share with us. It will help in improving my knowledge too!

Quarantined Gyan - Work From Home

In the midst of the new corona virus pandemic, most of the companies have implemented work from home for their employees. This article is dedicated to those people who are affecting my life as they are working tirelessly from Home. Needless to say working from office was not this much stressed. I was never a fan of Work From Home. I tried to explain them over a call as social distancing needs to be followed that there are few ways which you should consider when you are working from home. I think I failed miserably and I believe I should try once again via this post so few other people including me can be saved.

Before I start with all the Gyan, let me tell you that I consider myself as workaholic person but I always keep my thoughts and work organized and I believe unless you are calm inside you cannot give your 100% to the job and you always feel stressed.

It might be for an extended period of time rather than a day here and there. Your whole company is involved. And you can’t necessarily socialize in person outside of work. These tips will help you make sure that you’re managing your work well and you are maintaining your mental well-being:

1. Get Dressed

It’s a crucial step which you should take and trust me it’s a simple tip. I know its tempting to stay in pajamas and shorts all day but you must give away the temptation and test your productivity against other days.

I am not suggesting to dress formally as you might for office, but the simple act of changing clothes servers as a signal that its time to wake up and get the things done. I know that some of you might find this crazy and few of you might call me and tell that how stupid this idea is. Let me misquote SRK’s one dialogue “Don’t underestimate the power of putting on clothes suitable for work. It makes you feel confident and helps draw the line between being at work and being at home,”

Lastly you will keep a check on your wardrobe if you need to buy new clothes post “Lockdown” as you might be eating like there is no tomorrow.

2. Designate a Workspace

One of the biggest challenges anyone can face when it comes to work remotely is keeping your work and home lives different. If you never fully disconnect from work, your work quality will suffer and your home life can take a hit as well. If you’re used to going into an office each day, the division between work and home is physical, and you want to try to recreate that as much as possible with a designated workspace at home.

Try to make your workspace comfortable with a chair you can sit in for eight hours a day. Entering your workspace will help you turn “on” at the beginning of the day and get down to work. On the flipside, leaving your workspace will also help you turn “off” at the end of the day and fully disengage.

The key here is to do whatever you need to do to “leave” your workspace. Some people must understand that.

3. Keep Clearly Defined Working Hours

As you have already designated the work space for your job, you should be clear about when you are working and when you are not. You will get your best work done and be most ready for transition back to the office if you stick to regular office hours. If you are coordinating with multiple teams then be on the same schedule as your teammates. The biggest difference between working from home and working in the office is that you are in charge of your surroundings and have to treat yourself like an employee.

My advice is if you feel yourself extending your work hours because you aren’t doing anything in the evening...tell yourself it’s time to put work away, recharge, and start tomorrow with a fresh mind. The work will be there in the morning.

Let me quote myself “Work can not be finished in one day and you are not the magician”

4. Build Transitions Into Work

Your morning commute not only gets you from one place to another but also gives your brain time to prepare for work. I know someone who loves to drive and spend 3 hours everyday in travelling. She usually do everything in those 3 hours which is scarier even in writing. May be you usually read or listen to music on your commute and you can do the same at home or you can spend sometime with your loved ones or spend that time on a hobby or you can have JAR where you can write 3 Good things happened in your Life last day (This might work as a reminder).

Give yourself something that will signal the end of work and serve as a buffer. When I worked from home, I made it a habit to go out with my cousin to buy vegetables but in “Lockdown” days you can have the call with your friends or people who care about every day. So in case you fail to make a call on someday they will call and remind that your working hours are over.

5. Don’t Get Too Sucked by Anything Else

Distraction is one of the biggest challenges for the people who are working from home. You probably already take a few breaks throughout the day at the office, and that’s fine to do at home, too. Using that time to throw in a load of laundry is OK, but not try to take this window to check new work assignments. Some people can call me when they are on break as I am unemployed currently and need support (making puppy face while writing).

If you’re working remotely because of the new corona virus, checking in on COVID-19 updates is going to be at the front of your mind. It’s good to stay informed, of course, but it’s also easy to scroll yourself into an restless mess.

6. Communicate

If you like your office vibes then the chances are there will be some difficulties in the road when you go remote. The key to get out of this issue is communication especially with your manager and direct reports. You should come up with a plan that lays out expectations from your managers and the projects which you would be handling remotely. Do the same with anyone you usually work collaboratively with throughout the day.

Let me clarify before someone tell me that “You are crazy, this won’t work and this is not possible”. This plan is likely to change as you go. And that’s OK. This is a new situation for everyone. So make sure to circle back and change the plan if problems come up. You’ll also encounter unique challenges as you try to do your job remotely. Don’t hesitate to reach out to the same people you would usually turn to for help—even if you’re not in the same building as them.

Let me conclude this post by saying that “Work From Home” is fun as you have work to do. There is someone who is sitting idle and dependent on few calls and moral support from you guys.

A Girl Who Keeps Her Heart on Her Sleeves - 8 Reasons to Fall in Love

Girls who wear their hearts on their sleeves are a dying breed in our era of cynicism. But, the ones who have this rare and beautiful trait need to protect it. Why they are special... I might not be able to explain as I am very close to one of its kind. Waking up everyday with the thought of knowing her and talking to her everyday keep you sane in your quarantine days.

Listing down 8 reasons why you should date/love/be close to a girl who keeps her heart on her sleeves. Why 8 reasons ? It's my lucky number and I have to stop writing as I have to keep it sweet and crisp.

She Speaks Her Mind

She is the one who would be blunt when it comes to speaking her mind. I use to call her brutally honest. You should know that you can trust her to get real with you every time. She'll be the first one to speak up if she doesn't agree with your decision. She will not try to play " Follow the leader" especially she has the strongest inner compass there in her sleeves.

She's Not Always So Sweet

She is getting tired of being known as the “nice” one in your squad and trust me she enjoys every bit of it. Just to clarify that just because she has a ton of feelings sitting right on her sleeves, that does not make her fragile by any means. She will always make you believe that she is really strong, confident and independent woman. She will not stop until you have the same faith in her (I can vouch for this).

Whenever there is a drama, she will step out and add more Drama to the situation as she loves to do what’s best for her. Why I love this trait or this girl because she will make other people her priority and I believe she should be given a choice to pick herself first too. Life has made her tough and you have to deal with it.

She's Thoughtful

She is a savior for my kind of people when it comes to give each other gifts for any special occasion. You would never know that she has a recording of that incident when you saw some cute outfit or any accessory in the window of your store 6 months ago. She wll pick out the perfect card and save it for your birthday. She is naturally so in tune to other people’s thoughts and feelings.

This gets her into a little trouble too. When she is so thoughtful and you are dumb, she sets the standards really high for you and don’t get what she is looking for in return. My advice, you have to give this girl some reassurance that you care about her just as much (She wont get it most of the time but you have to keep trying :P)

She is Romantic

This girl lives in Yash Chopra movies along with Shah Rukh Khan. So you can guess you are competing against those who have won the girl basis already written scripts. She probably day dream about DDLJ and seriously believes in soulmates. She can always be caught saying, "Awe!" over couples on social media and endless engagement videos.

You'll find her looking for a love story that'll last and she can cry on the same scene endless time. She's honestly the sweetest person to call your partner because she makes the people she cares about such a priority.

My advice, don't take advantage of her romantic heart. She wears it on her sleeve, but needs someone who will understand it just the same.

She is a Great Listener

She is so connected with her thoughts and feelings which makes her very understanding. Having heart to heart with her is always an stirring experience, because she will listen to all your problems and put her best advice forward.

She'll be blunt with you when you need to hear the hard truth, but she'll also let you speak your mind. Sometimes logic just isn't enough and you need someone to speak from the heart.

Improvisation Queen

She is always looking for new things to satisfy her soul. You will notice that she will never settle and runs with her emotion everytime and improvise herself with the situation so she can cope up with outcome. If given a chance and money she will catch the first flight to see a new beautiful place right away. I believe she knows this world has so much to offer to her passionate heart.

My thoughts, this girl is so independent and she knows what she wants at any given point of time but is always open to change her course to grow if required. Trust me you will have a hard time to convince so if you want to be with her just be yourself that would  be much easy than remembering every chat you sent to her.

Driven by Heart

This girl will always follow her heart when it comes to decisions and figuring out anything at work or in life. I at times choose to focus on the logic or go with the gut but she finds the most confidence in her feelings, despite the fact that they could change at any time.

She knows what she is passionate about, and will fearlessly set out to live a life full of love, because its more exciting that way. So before you assume anything about her, you must know that its not all about what you see on the surface. Let me quote someone very close to me “Shashank, You get what you want to see! That’s how universe works”.

She Will Move On with Love, Not Hate

Even if she has these many qualities, she has to experience breakups as most of the time we won’t be able to see the qualities of a person until we lose them. Even girls who wear their hearts on their sleeves experience breakups. She would be heartbroken as you are, she accept the fact that she will always love her EX.

She know she wont ever be “over it” and because of this she is at peace knowing that her EX will remain in her heart always. Which will give her immense pain at times but she is fine with it as she wants to live by that code. She always wants to look back on her relationship with appreciation as she has wished him luck, wholeheartedly. 

My advice, a guy would be lucky to experience love with a girl who keeps her heart on her sleeves.